I don’t want sex with my wife any more
Q MY wife had a bad drink problem. No one, apart from me and our kids, knew how bad it was because she was a secret drinker, but eventually she was told by her GP to give up or die.
She went to AA and I joined Al-Anon at the same time so I could understand this sickness threatening her life.
There were many tears along the way, but she did get sober. I was so thankful. Yet although I will always love my wife, I no longer have the slightest sexual interest in her.
I accept this hurts her very much. She’s suggested Viagra, but it’s not that I can’t make love to her - I just don’t want to.
A YOU have to be honest and tell your wife more or less what you told me - that while you will always care about her, you no longer want to have sex with her.
I guess all her years of boozing drove out your desire. I don’t know if you’ll ever get it back, although counselling is worth a shot.
But it may well not work, in which case you both must decide whether you can continue with a sexless, if not loveless, marriage.
